I Am Bisexual!

Hey guys! Sorry I didn’t blog yesterday. I usually try to post every Monday (I’ve actually been thinking about posting more than once a week) but classes started yesterday, so I was gone most of the day. But since my schedule says I’m free now, it’s writing time!

So because you guys have been so patient, I will share something with you guys that few people in my life know: I am bisexual.

Now quite frankly, I’ve been questioning for years. I thought that being bisexual meant that you have an equal preference for men and women. Then I learned about this thing:

A colorful table  of the Kinsey Scale from Tumblr.com

This little wonder is called the Kinsey Scale. Being a zero on the scale means that you’re exclusively heterosexual, and being a six means that you’re exclusively homosexual. Everything else in between is basically where bisexuality, pansexuality, and etc. are (Except asexuality- that’s kind of a league of its own). I actually first learned about this in my women’s studies class. Since I was still questioning at the time, I took a couple of tests- one given to me by my instructor and one I found online- and came up as a 2, which seems about right. I have a preference for men, but I’m not exactly against liking/dating girls. But ultimately it’s on you- tests can be wrong, you know. But I do feel right about being a 2 on the scale.

Myth-busting time!

1. Being bisexual does not necessarily mean that we are up for threesomes! Trust me- I don’t like them. Quite frankly… I don’t like sharing my partner, you understand. Haha.

2. Being bisexual does not mean that I’m struggling to play for one team! I know that I am not strictly heterosexual or strictly homosexual. Yes, some people in those categories use bisexuality as transition into the other. I am not one of those people.

3. Being bisexual does not mean that I’m desperate! I’ve had a boyfriend and girlfriend at this point (not at the same time, see #1 above). I know that love is patient. Bisexuality technically doubles your chances at finding love but at the same time it does not. There are many factors that would make this difficult.

Those are my three truths for you. If I think of any more, I’ll either write them in or put them in another post; I’ll be coming back to this subject again because I’ve searched- there are not enough books, movies, or even write-ups like this by bisexuals, for bisexuals, about bisexuals. I want to make this kind of information more available to people like me who are out there and were as confused as I was.

That said, for my bisexual (or questioning) amigas, I recommend this site here: http://www.shybi.com/

This site has a lot of information and other bisexuals who know what they’re talking about. If you guys want to ask questions or just mingle, join the forums (listed along the top of the page). I’ve been signed up for a couple of weeks now- there are plenty of topics to talk about, and the ladies on the forum are pretty empathetic, friendly, and helpful- with all problems and such, not just stuff about sexuality. Definitely beneficial for those who are still in the closet. You’ll also find that a lot of the ladies on there also rank as a 2 on the Kinsey Scale.

For my bisexual (or questioning!) guys, here is the brother site to shybi: http://www.shybi-guys.com/

Because I’m not a guy, I haven’t really explored the site or the forum (listed on the left-hand side of the page), but if it’s anything like the ladies’ site, then it’ll be equally beneficial for you guys out there.

Alright this is a long post… so I’ll cut it now. I’ll being this back be coming back to this (*edit: my brain stalled when I was writing the part that's crossed out- ignore that) later. Thanks for reading people! Drop me comments and questions if you have any!

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeyyy sexy lady (or gentleman)!

~H.P. Echo~

*Update*: There is a fantastic new book about bisexuality called Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner! It includes topics such as what bisexuality is, biphobia, passing, bisexuality while being trans* and more. If you want to further educate yourself- or if you have a paper to write, I recommend checking it out!